It’s a simple yet complicated form of art that many of us have yet to grasp in life. We’ve had to let go of many things we didn’t realize we were letting go. It ranges from people to pets to jobs to significant others, and even those milestones in life such as graduations and birthdays. It’s probably one of the hardest things we have to do, just letting go. We’ve all heard the phrase “let go, let god”, but do we ever really ever let go and let god handle the things we can no longer take on? Now, I’m not going to go down the religious and faithful path of how this phrase is used, but I do want to touch base on how letting go can be just as powerful as holding on.
I’ve always been a sucker for keeping things far too long than I should. It’s almost as if I don’t want to let go of all the memories that a single item has created for me because my mental memories will one day betray me. As I get older, I start to realize that maybe letting go is a lot better than holding on, especially when some of those moments, memories, and/or items may be hurting me more than I want to believe.
In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.Buddha
Growing up, I had a horrible habit of holding grudges and staying mad about the little things. I didn’t know this at the time, but these little things bared no significance to what was going to come in the future. You grow up thinking that people will do you wrong and you have to stay mad at them for the rest of your life. But how significant were those moments going to be in the seasons of your life? How were those moments, those people, going to change the way you look at life? We are often put between a rock and a hard place when it comes to letting go of all the negativity, all the anger, and all the residual resentment that we have buried inside us. I’ve learned the hard way that staying mad will get me absolutely nowhere and that only brings me to my next point.
Life isn’t just about letting go of certain emotions, it’s about letting go of a lot than just that. As I rounded out my research, almost every article and post I read came up with a set of questions that you would ask yourself if you were or are in the process of letting something go. Now, keep in mind that by letting go, it can be a multitude of things, such as emotions, feelings, people, things, pets, clothes, etc.; almost anything that we have potentially encountered throughout life. Like the saying goes, it’s easier said than done and that’s the reality of letting go. We say we’re going to stop doing certain things, start creating new habits, stop this, stop that and yet, something inside us doesn’t allow us to really sought out these changes. While it’s never easy, it’s not impossible either.
I can sit here and type away all the ways, tips and tricks, or loopholes there are to letting go, but everyone lets go in their own way and time. I’ve learned through my own experiences that letting go silently is best. No words, no thoughts, just a simple motion of letting go.
What’s your art of letting go?