As my 26th birthday creeps up on me, I have been wondering what exactly have I learned in the 26 years of life that I have been blessed with. I’ve always had the notion in my mind that our lives are simply borrowed, eventually we have to return them, but not without a little use. I’ve read similar posts like mine, but everyone has their own life lessons that they’ve acquired throughout their life.
Here are 26 things I learned before the age of 26:
- Everyone is replaceable: This goes without saying. I’ve made my circle extremely small as I got older and I have no regrets about this decision.
- There is no such thing as job security: I learned this the hard way. I never thought that at 26 I would be unemployed and struggling to find a job. It’s a cut-throat world out there.
- Find time to spoil yourself: I have always been a big believer of spoiling yourself with what makes you happy. Everyone deserves a bit of happiness in their days.
- Being single does not make you lonely: I’ve been single since I was 17 years old. I’ve dated, but I’ve realized that I don’t need a partner at the moment. I’m hella good.
- Take care of your mental health ALWAYS: I’ve become a huge advocate for mental health and I’ve been able to take care of my mental health better now than I have in years.
- Keep your circle of friends small: I have ended years-long friendships, cut toxic people out of my life, and kept those who I truly trust around me.
- Make family a priority: I have a distinct relationship with my family, but that doesn’t mean I don’t take time to hang out with them.
- It’s okay to do stuff on your own: I have learned to love doing things on my own. I go to concerts alone, the movies, heck, I even go to Disneyland by myself.
- Don’t trust everyone that says “you can trust me”: Everyone has different versions of what “trust” means.
- If you want it, go get it: I remember always denying myself the “better” things in life. I stopped giving a fuck and started treating myself when I have the means to.
- Your opinion matters even when people disagree: This was something I always struggled with, but I’m glad that I’m more willing to share my opinion than to keep to myself.
- Your autonomy is priceless: Being independent is a way of being, regardless of your current situation. If you can do it for yourself, than do it.
- Don’t wait for the “right time”: There is no right or wrong time. Life will happen with or without you.
- Save 25% of every paycheck: I have still yet to do 25%, but I did always put some money away for a rainy day.
- Wear whatever makes you feel good: Being a plus size woman has definitely allowed me to be more creative in the fashion department, especially after really falling in love with fashion and following women who look like my body type.
- Do good, be good: Kindness goes a long way and it shouldn’t take a lot of effort.
- Be kind to yourself: We are our biggest critics. It’s okay if we fuck up, as long as we fix or learn from the mistakes.
- It’s okay to make mistakes: No one is designed to be absolutely perfect. We are not robots.
- Do not settle for anyone: There is no need to be unhappy for anyone. That’s not healthy, nor smart.
- Say “I love you” more often: I am not a very emotional person, but when I have the opportunity, I make sure to say “I love you” to my family and close friends.
- It’s okay to jam out in your car: I used to be so embarrassed to sing in my car with the windows down. Now, I could care less and do it when the weather is beautiful.
- Learn to listen actively: I’ve always been the person that offers advice immediately. Sometimes, people don’t always want advice, they just want someone to vent to.
- Let go of old grudges: This is especially hard for those that take events in life very seriously. There’s no need to be resentful when life is not about resentment. Move on and live happily.
- Confidence goes a loooong way: I was never confident, until one day I decided that enough was enough. I stopped feeling sorry for myself and started living.
- Strive for happiness and happiness only: A constant mistake I made in my early 20’s was not doing the things that made me genuinely happy. I would mope around when I felt like the world was not doing what I asked it to do.
- Love yourself, no matter what: No one is going to love you like you love yourself. You owe it to yourself to treat yo’self like the queen (or king) that you are.
Damn, I’m getting old…