The most frequently asked question I get when I mention that I have my own website. Around this time last year, I made the financial decision to own my domain and I have never looked back since. I have been actively blogging since 2014, mostly about my writing at that time. I thought I was doing something great by becoming an “instagram poet” and while I have always loved writing and poetry, I soon realized that I wanted to keep my writing personal. What I started realizing as well was my need for content on Instagram and keeping my blog alive. It was during this time that I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and really start looking at fashion as an outlet for myself. It took a lot of self-love and confidence building to get to the point that I am at today. I am not an average sized woman, I am a plus size, big boobs, big personality, and round tummy kind of woman. I noticed that there wasn’t many women that looked like me, or at least, I didn’t think there was. Once I started following body positive accounts, I started coming across women of different sizes, shapes, ethnicities, and races and boy, was I in for the shock of a lifetime. I had discovered a growing community of plus size women who were fearless, relentless, and confident. I was so fucking happy to see women that were like me posting up the most amazing photos of them in their killer outfits. It inspired me to really look deep inside myself and take life by the horns, or in this case, stomach rolls.
I have been a part of this community for the last year or so and I have met the most amazing women ever. I am an introvert by nature, so putting myself out there was really a huge accomplishment. I absolutely fell in love with fashion, I fell in love with the feeling of wearing something that I had no shame about. For years, mostly during my formative years, I was always the butt of every fat joke, I was the odd girl out, I was the fat girl. And although it doesn’t bother me as much anymore, I felt the need to finally put that to rest. Keeping up my courage, foolish as it seems made a world of a difference in my outlook of life. Being a blogger to some is like tasting soap in their mouth. A number of questions are being asked and some of them can trigger negative feelings. Being a part of the plus size community has allowed me to really shine and help others feels comfortable in their own skin. This platform has been nothing but a blessing to me. It gives me a voice I never thought I could be able to attain and it not only helps me express myself, but it gives other women and men a small look into my life. As I’ve gotten older, I have been more aware of what I share with the world. I am not the open book I used to be, but these small glimpses let others see that I am just like them in so many ways. I know I’m no one special or great, but at least I will reach the audience that needs to be reached.
With that being said, blogging is one of my passions. It has allowed me the absolute control of my own brand and how I decide to use it is up to me. It has connected me with amazing people and brands that only want to help you grow. The blogging community is absolutely relentless and I love that about them. They don’t let others dictate what they can or cannot share out on Social Media, they do things their way and to the beat of their own drum. I hope that one day I have the exposure and the reach of some of my favorite bloggers. They captivate their audience with honest and transparent content and one of my hopes is to be a voice for not only for a marginalized community, but for my community.